Attached - Amir Levine & Rachel Heller


By Amir Levine & Rachel Heller

  • Release Date: 2010-12-30
  • Genre: Family & Relationships
Score: 4.5
From 820 Ratings


We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes."

In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.


  • Really Interesting

    By Aaajjjoooo
    This was a really interesting read. There are a lot of interesting concepts, but in places it felt like the authors were overly confident in making assumptions. I also feel like these types of books can over simplify peoples personalities.
  • Informing and interesting

    By ALD 97
    It was really detailed on how to go about changing certain situations and explaining the meaning behind different problems faced in anxious-avoidant relationships, while giving insight on how secure people act in relationships, how they have mastered it. He really hit the nail on the head. Recommend!
  • I learned something about myself!

    I enjoyed learning what my own & my wife’s attachment style is. Next time we have a disagreement, I’ll be sure to focus on the core issue and respond with a secure attachment.
  • Excellent

    By mellymel1991
    Lovedddd it. Easy to read great examples. I recommend to everyone!
  • Loved it

    By madmak1632
    I recently broke up with my girlfriend and didn't understand why some of the tatics I used hurt her. I thought jealousy was part of the game. I was very upset if she didn't return my texts or calls right away when she was hanging with her friends. I thought this was a normal reaction. Then I found this book and read it in a week. It has not only helped me with my romantic life but also with relationships with friends and family. I'll probably re-read this several times over.
  • Game changer for any and all relationships

    By Gimmy Gang
    So grateful for this book. Can’t believe it was only a few clicks away all this time. It gave me the real answers and even closure I didn’t know I needed. This should be required reading for all.
  • Life-Changing

    By Heywhotookmynickname
    I don’t think I’ll ever be the same after reading this book. I’m very thankful it was given to me.
  • Clear & Practical

    By Tristan Biesecker
    I have read various relationship books, but most of them never descend from their theoretical and/or academic narratives to a level that provides advice which can be easily applied day to day. Attached, on the other hand, not only lays out information in a concise and clear manner, but outlines various strategies for navigating interpersonal relationships effectively given your attachment style. While I did not agree necessarily all assertions put forth by the authors, I found the content of Attached to be largely sound, and I have applied much of the advise therein with success. I would highly recommend this book to anyone who wants to learn more about different emotional dispositions and how those affect relationship dynamics.
  • Sooooo good!!!

    By Thiago Pomponio
    It really help me understand the difference types of attachment. It helped understand who I am, what I am , what I need and what kind of attachment i should go for.
  • Life Changing 🤍

    This book should be a mandatory read for kids. It would save them unnecessary heartache and time. I only wish I read this book much sooner in my life. It took meeting a secure man and losing him due to my anxious attachment style to have a friend introduce me to this book. Life changing! I’m excited to start dating again and put these new-found principles into practice!