Boundaries in Marriage - Henry Cloud & John Townsend

Boundaries in Marriage

By Henry Cloud & John Townsend

  • Release Date: 2009-05-18
  • Genre: Christianity
Score: 4.5
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Description

Learn how setting healthy boundaries in your marriage can strengthen—or even save—your relationship with your spouse.

Most marital conflicts are boundary conflicts where one person crosses the lines of responsibility and respect. When couples learn to embrace personal responsibility and to respect each other’s freedom, love is allowed to thrive.

Whether you're happy in your marriage and want to keep growing, or if you're struggling with increasing disconnection, Boundaries in Marriage will give you the tools you need to:
Set and maintain personal boundaries while respecting those of your partner.Understand and practice two key ingredients to a successful marriage: freedom and responsibility.Establish values that form a godly structure and architecture for your marriage.Protect your marriage from different kinds of "intruders."Work with a spouse who is resistant to boundaries.
In Boundaries in Marriage, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend, counselors and authors of the New York Times bestseller Boundaries, will show you how healthy marriages are marriages with boundaries. They promote love by protecting individuals.

Reviews

  • Great book

    5
    By Ftla102318
    What a humbling read, I have been reading through this book & looking at myself through the entire thing. After my divorce, I have been able to take responsibility for my own actions & hopefully repair our relationship. It may never lead to reconciliation of the marriage but we may co-parent our daughter better. I make it a point to reach out to apologize for the ways I let her down in our marriage.
  • Not inline with Gods Word

    1
    By CRosenboom
    This book goes against the simplest and most important part of a Godly marriage. Instead of teaching and explaining a marriage that God has intended us to have. This is what God says about marriage : Genesis 2:24 - Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Mark 10:6-9 - But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female. Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate. 1 Corinthians 7:2-11 - But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 - Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Colossians 3:14 ~ And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. This book does nothing but show you how to divide a marriage and how to belittle each other and does not teach of Gods will and meaning of marriage!!
  • Communication

    5
    By Wlinder_red
    This is a great book for couples that are struggling with communication and relationship issues.
  • Vital to a healthy marriage.

    5
    By Live Acts29
    Every marriage needs to read this!
  • Boundaries for Marriage

    5
    By Teresa Limoñ
    Very Enlightening
  • Before Marriage

    5
    By Key to life
    I love this book. It's like going your own private marriage counseling session and I honestly feel this is a book that should be read before you get married and kept while your married to read just in case you have a set back and need to refresh your boundaries. This book is so great I recommended to my mother and who reading it also and she loves it. I will take what I've learned and incorporate it into my everyday life. I took plenty of notes!!!
  • Amazing Book!!!

    5
    By Grateful in Texas
    This is an amazing book! When I found it in April 2013, I was at my wits end. Having filed for divorce, but being told by my Christian friends that I had not given God a chance to work in my life and in my relationship. After 10 years of marriage, I, like a number of subjects in this book, had enough my husband's irresponsibility and lashes of anger. Soon after I began reading the book, I discovered my own failure and contribution to our situation. Out of fear of being verbally attacked and just wanting to avoid conflict, often times I was passive and allowed situations that warranted confrontation to go unchecked. This was a recurring pattern. So rather than setting boundaries, which I was not familiar with until reading the book, over time I felt I had no other choice but divorce, since my husband ignored my pleading and cajoling for change. Now it's September 2013, I've finished the book and I believe strongly that my marriage will survive. I immediately began practicing some of the techniques in the book and the response from my husband has been positive. We still have a ways to go in terms of fully reconciling and healing our marriage. But I no longer feel lost, anxious or afraid. I believe I have the necessary tools to help make my marriage strong, honest, and real. I thank Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend for a tremendous work. I prayed, fasted and pleaded with God to send me the answers to help me know what direction to go in with my marriage, and I found this book. I told a friend that I felt as though it was written solely and specifically for me. I am so grateful that I found this book. I shutter to think where my marriage would be if I had not.
  • Boundaries in Marriage

    5
    By RVThereYet3?
    Amazing! Never realized Gods truths in this way. Highly recommend this book. Read & re-read the last 2 chapters over & over!
  • Great book

    4
    By DrScreenplay
    The Boundaries series is one of my favorites. This will definitely help your marriage. ***tech issue. I have no chapters in here. So it's hard to navigate. This isn't like other iBooks. So there's a glitch or something.